Madison—

They tell you that “everything happens for a reason.” For years, I hated that phrase. It sounded like a cheap bumper sticker to excuse bad luck or avoid hard work. Whenever someone said it, I’d snap back, “Yeah, but that doesn’t mean it’s a good reason.” I didn’t believe in any bigger picture. If something went wrong, it was my job to fix it, carry it, or curse it.

Today, sitting on a snowmobile that wouldn’t start at 10,000 feet, I heard that old phrase echo again. I had just watched the sunrise over Strawberry Reservoir. I’d filled up on biscuits and gravy at Daniel’s Café. I was looking forward to a day of fun in the snow. Then the engine sputtered and died. Old me would have torn into the engine, swore at the sky, and shouldered the blame. Today I laughed. I tried the key a couple of times. When it didn’t cooperate, I called the office, told them what was up, and then… I sat down and took in the view.

There was nothing I could do to fix it in that moment. And that was okay. I could trust that help would come. I could let the Universe handle the snowmobile while I handled my breathing. That quiet moment on the ridge took me back to a totally different setting—a casino in Oklahoma.

Beth loved slots. I’d always called them stupid. “I always win,” she said, and I always lost. That night we sat there: she was $300 up; I was several hundred down. I was frustrated, like I always was back then. She turned to me and said, “You’ve got to feel it. You’ve got to love it. Look around—one of these machines is talking to you. Which one is it?” Everything in me wanted to dismiss it. But she was winning and I wasn’t. So I chose the one that sparkled. I put my hands on the buttons, made myself say, “Okay, I love you. Let’s win now.” And you know what? It worked. I started hitting. I walked away with a few hundred dollars and, more importantly, with my first crack in the belief that maybe there’s more going on than I can see. Maybe dismissing something as stupid before giving it a chance was closing me off from surprises.

Since then, those cracks have opened wider. I’m still not someone who believes that the Universe hands out prizes for good behaviour. I don’t think slot machines love you back. What I do believe now is this: when I loosen my grip on control—when I stop assuming that the worst will always happen or that I have to fix everything alone—the world feels less heavy. And I start to see opportunities and lessons I’d been too cynical to notice. The same is true with Madison.

When you don’t talk to someone for years, your mind fills in the silence. Ego takes over. It invents conversations that never happened. It assigns motives to every action. It writes stories about how they see you and why they did what they did. Those stories feel real. They create anxiety and stress. They make you feel small and defensive. But they are just stories. They are not the authentic you, and they’re not the person on the other end either.

If she ever reads this, I want her to know that I’m learning to let go of those ego conversations. I’m learning to stop deciding ahead of time what she thinks of me or what our relationship could be. Because while she may have a certain perspective of me right now, she doesn’t know what lessons or love or growth we might share in the future. If she keeps her heart closed, she’ll never know what good could be waiting. And if I keep my heart closed, I’ll keep making myself miserable with imaginary arguments.

So today I let the snowmobile be broken without letting it break me. I remembered that sometimes the machine that sparkles is worth trying. I chose to believe that the best may still be in the making, even if I can’t see it yet. And that’s a mindset I want to carry into everything—whether it’s editing Mountains, Monsters, and Mercy, preparing for a move to Utah, or simply living in a world where not everything is under my control.

I love you, Madison. Enough to pause when something breaks. Enough to laugh instead of curse. Enough to believe that maybe—just maybe—the best is yet to come, for both of us.

Dad